3 simple steps to combat depression
(aka ‘The light at the end of the tunnel and how to find it’)
with your FREE hypnotherapy mp3
Back in the days, when I was a Chartered Financial Planner, life was pretty stressful. There were targets to meet, training sessions to deliver & complete, meetings to run and a wealth of regulation to work within. There weren’t enough hours in the day or days in the week but I just knuckled down and got on with it.
Until I got ill.
Suddenly, everything was too much. Wherever I looked, whatever I did, there was more work, less time, no way out, no respite. Despite their best intentions, everything my employer did to help seemed to make it worse.
I was exhausted, worried & nothing felt secure. I’d lost track of the light at the end of tunnel.
Except that wasn’t true. Not really.
With hindsight, my workload had been significantly reduced. My employer was more tolerant of missed deadlines. I had more support. At home, family rallied round and helped me through it all, despite their own worries about my health.
So why couldn’t I see it at the time?
If I had noticed, I’d have had less to worry about & been able to focus on getting better, instead of fearing for my future.
What’s going on and, more importantly, is there a way to change it?
In essence it boils down to this one simple thing. When you’re running for your life, you don’t stop and smell the roses. You quite literally stop looking for the light at the end of the tunnel.
Evolution has made sure that if our environment feels unsafe, we watch out for danger. So you can be prepared to fight or run away.
And if there wasn’t a threat after all, it’s better to be on high alert & be wrong. If you weren’t, you might end up in the belly of some toothsome beasty.
These days the ‘dangers’ are mostly from the stresses, anxieties, and worries of our 21st century world. So this age-old reaction of high alert’s counter-productive.
It’d be better if we relaxed, noticed the sunset, breathed the air. Stopped and smelled the roses. Relaxed & stayed calm.
That’s a difficult thing to do unless you know how.
Fortunately, I’ve got just the thing.
Three steps to find the light at the end of the tunnel
You can retrain your brain to deliberately recall something about each day that, for you, was good, a gift if you like. It doesn’t need to be big or deep or meaningful. Often it’s the small things that make the most difference. That smell when you open a fresh bag of coffee, catching someone’s eye on the tube (I know, we’re not supposed to do that in London), a cloud that reminds you of a pet dog or cat. It can be anything at all.
It’ll make a profound difference to your life.
Try it. You won’t regret it.
Here’s how to find the light at the end of the tunnel
It’s surprisingly simple.
- Last thing before you get into bed, recall three things that were somehow good. However small.
- Write them down.
- Do it every night, without fail for 2 weeks.
You might notice how it becomes easier after four or five nights. Pretty soon you’ll have several things to choose between, (but it’s important to only write down three).
To help, I’ve recorded a hypnotherapy mp3 specifically for this.
Listen to it during the evening, then write down your three things.
The mp3’s free & yours to keep. (In exchange, I’ll ask you to sign up for my newsletter).
Try it for 2 weeks & let me know how you get on.
You might be pleasantly surprised.
Here’s how it works, if you’re interested:
- The brain doesn’t like being tested, especially last thing at night.
- As soon as it catches on that you’ll keep doing this, it starts to look for things for you to remember. You’ll be surprised, in only a few nights there’ll be far more than three things…but only write down three!
- If you routinely notice good things, your mind begins to come down off high alert.
- Finally, thinking about good things, however small, last thing at night makes for better sleep.
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If you haven’t already done it, download your free hypnotherapy mp3 here